Q. What is revenge porn?
Revealing or sexually explicit images or videos of a person posted on the Internet, typically by a former sexual partner, without the consent of the subject and in order to cause them distress or embarrassment.
In short: Posting nudes of someone online without their consent.
See also the definitions of: Stupid, Uncool, Criminal Behavior.
Q. Did I commit a crime?
Yes. It’s illegal to post naked photos of someone without their consent.
Consequences in your state:
Your first offense is considered a misdemeanor (punishable with up to 1 year in jail and $1,000 fine).
Your second offense (yeah, we know about that one, too) is considered a third degree felony (punishable with up to 5 years in jail and a $5,000 fine).
Q. Am I entitled to a woman’s body? Even if we dated once?
Absolutely not. In fact I’d venture to say you’re lucky you were ever able to look at or enjoy her body. Specifically relating to photographs of her body post-breakup: Sure, a person cannot sue to get their photos back after a break up (yet) but see the FAQ above in reference to posting those photos online without her consent.
It is not your right to share her body with other people without her consent. Notice the term HER in context with the term BODY.
HER – Her is a possessive pronoun. This means that something following the term “her” belongs to that person. In context with BODY which follows the term “her” – the body belongs to HER.
CONSENT – (noun) permission for something to happen or agreement to do something. Remember, consent is freely given, activity specific, active and ongoing, can be revoked at ANY point.
***this also applies to women who post nudes of men or other women and men who post photos of other men. Basically: NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO ANYONE’S BODY. There, that wasn’t hard.
Q. I posted anonymously, that means it can’t be traced back to me right?
No. Chances are it’s being traced back to you right now, or already has been.
Q. I used an old photo from years ago LOL she’ll never figure out it was me.
Pretty sure she knows. See above.
Q. Does posting on Anon-IB or other revenge porn forums make me a cool guy?
If by cool guy you mean a complete loser with no productive or fulfilling actual life.. Then sure, you’re probably the coolest guy.
Q. Does posting revenge porn make me look like I am insecure?
I think it probably solidifies the fact that you’re insecure. Before you posted people could probably already tell you hated yourself, but after, it’s really obvious that you need constant attention and validation and you’re willing to do just about anything to get it.
Q. Is my mom going to get in trouble if I used her internet to post naked photos of someone without consent?
This is simultaneously gross, sad, and pathetic. But yes, you’ve made your mother vulnerable to legal action because you couldn’t get over your need to hurt someone or take advantage of trust they once gave you.
Q. Will women trust getting naked in front of me again?
Well, you sound like you have some serious control and insecurity issues so I’m not sure why they would anyway but my bet is that your “secret”, “anonymous” internet activities will probably be a deterrent.
Q. Will posting revenge porn affect my business?
Getting arrested and paying heavy fines might affect your business life, yes. I suppose you can keep trying your luck and find out for yourself?
Q. Did I hurt her by posting her topless photo online?
If that’s what you were looking for… yes you did. You made her feel unsafe, insecure, and ashamed. You made her feel like she had no agency over her body. You made her second guess herself and have made it more difficult for her to trust others. For five months she woke up everyday feeling awful about herself, she cried daily, and couldn’t understand why someone would do something like this. She looked over her shoulder worried everyday because she didn’t know right away who the “anonymous” people posting and commenting about her body were. She didn’t want to go out in public in fear that the people she saw were people that were commenting on the photo. You made her fear for losing her job. You made her experience the shame of her family finding out her naked photos were online.
BUT I think the one thing you’re forgetting though is who you’re dealing with. As much as you hurt her now and in the past – this girl is a badass. Everything you hated about her before (her intelligence, her drive, her voice) has just gotten stronger. She was always a fighter before, but now she’s part of an army.. And we’re coming for you.