Revenge Porn Culture is Rape Culture (NSFW)

Approximately 1 in 25 Americans will become a victim of Revenge Porn in their lifetime. This crime has become increasingly common, yet society remains largely ignorant of the practice and its devastating- sometimes deadly- consequences. In this area of activism, we see a lot of pushback from not only those committing this act and consuming the Revenge Porn, but also from the rest of society. In any given comment section, it is likely that you will find more people insinuating that we (the activists) are attention-seeking folk with loose morals, offering us helpful nuggets of advice such as “you shouldn’t send nudes if you don’t want them to end up online” than you will find supporting our cause and lifting us up.

This is not an exaggeration. In a story done earlier this year I counted ten comments in response. Eight of them expressed the sentiment that we had it coming, one of them called a victim ugly, and the last comment gave the URL of the website where we had been exposed (the piece had purposefully left that information out to protect our privacy).

A handful of victim-blaming comments , and this is just from today!

We may never get through to the hardcore pervs or prudes. So, this piece is aimed at those folks in the middle- those who don’t understand the dark world of revenge porn and what happens beneath its surface, but have the willingness to learn more about it. I’m talking to the millions of modern Americans who have taken a photo of their own junk but have not yet had the displeasure of viewing said photo on an online message board open for public comment, and the people who love them.

Our reasons for speaking out are not selfish. We have been thrust into the spotlight, naked and on someone else’s terms. Who would choose that for themselves? It is a sexual assault of the digital variety. The Galaxy is under attack by a very Dark Force and as victims of this crime, it is our responsibility to shine a light on this disgusting culture before the bad guys ruin nudes for everyone.

For those who don’t see Revenge Porn as a “big deal”, understand this- Revenge Porn culture is an extension of Rape culture. Of this, we are certain. We see this attitude expressed toward us every day, but one of the most eye-opening examples for me was a message received by Katelyn mere hours after her appearance on Megyn Kelly earlier this summer. (Trigger Warning: Holocaust mention, extreme vulgarity, objectification of women, sexual references, transphobia, sexual violence, use of the R word to suggest intellectual disability… and probably some others.):

 

“Listen here you retarded aushwitz surviver looking bitch. you did not shut down anon ib you stupid sluts cant do anything besides bitch and moan. it took police 8 years to shut down that glorious site and it look less than 2 weeks for a copy to appear. you can continue trying to stop it but theirs hundreds of sites used to spread whores nudes you are mad that no one wanted to see yours bitch. read the manifesto and learn no matter how hard you try sluts will be exposed and ruined daily. you are made to be fuck meat for internet accept that women are property”

For those of you just tuning in, when they mention “anon ib”, they are referencing the revenge porn site that was shut down earlier this year when it was seized by the Dutch Police. The site was the most popular of its kind and the one responsible for sharing the majority of our images without our consent. It’s the same site responsible for the “Fappening”, where many high-profile celebrities had their nude photos stolen and leaked to the site.

While it is true that a replacement for the site now exists, it has nowhere near the following of the original site. We never claimed we were responsible for the shutdown; however we did contribute to the conversation which ultimately led us here and I think we should be proud of that. Katelyn was directly involved in some of the press that got the attention of the Dutch police.

He then attaches the manifesto referenced in the email. So we’re all aware of the rules around here, here they are (again, very gross stuff ahead) :

  1. Once a whore’s pics are uploaded to the Internet, there is no going back! They will quickly be downloaded by hundreds (if not thousands) of horny viewers. Those viewers in turn will naturally save them to their computers, share them, post them elsewhere, and (of course) jack off to them over and over again.
  2. Your Exposure can’t be undone. If the exposed wishes to have her photo removed, she should read #1 again.  There is no way to truly recover what has been shown to thousands of others. It is best to accept your exposure.
  3. All women, girls, sluts, cunts and whores should always be exposed, shared, and objectified. If a bitch IS sexually attractive then she should accept her role in life as a sexual object.
  4. Expose often,  expose early. Preferably as soon as the bitch turns 18. Doing this will allow her exposure to last throughout her entire adult life and allow everyone to enjoy the slut.
  5. No part of the body is private. Expose with face, tits, pussy, and ass. All private experiences of pleasure and exploration are to be shared.
  6. Make the fantasy real. Real, full names, email addresses, phone numbers, any and all info and/or personal details should be used.
  7. Continue the cycle. It is your job to download, re-post, share, and (of course) jack off to the photos that have been posted.

When you share someone’s nudes without their consent, this is the danger you expose them to- this guy and all his internet friends. These people now have the victim’s personal information, intimate images, and the desire to perpetuate this horror, over and over again. They are the reason that, seven years after being posted, a friend of mine is STILL finding her nude image being shared online.

Once you open someone up to this danger and make them a target for these creeps, it’s hard for them to feel safe. This is what we are up against. And please understand this case is far from unique. We receive all kinds of “fan mail” from people that share these ideals. I have seen this same manifesto image posted far and wide across the dark depths of the internet and it makes me want to puke every time. If you Google “Internet Slut Exposure Manifesto” you can get a little taste of what I mean, although I don’t actually recommend doing this because you will see some awful things.

This is a very real problem. Nothing is off limits to them. Here’s your proof. It’s like Katelyn said in the Megyn Kelly video- nobody else is going to do anything about this problem. Most people don’t even know this problem exists. That’s why we fight. It is our responsibility to change that and to speak out against this. We must ensure our legislators are enacting laws against Non Consensual Intimate Imagery (NCII) and that our law enforcement officers are trained to uphold these laws to the best of their ability.

What can you do to help? Don’t contribute to non-consensual intimate imagery or it’s culture. Call out problematic behavior when you see it. This is especially important for men- if your friends are acting in a way that contributes to rape culture- let them know. Don’t support or visit the websites that host this content. Don’t leak nudes. If someone else sends you nudes, respect them enough to use a strong password, and delete them when you break up.

Nobody should have to experience the nightmare that is revenge porn/ Non Consensual Intimate Imagery (NCII) , but should the circumstance ever arise, BADASS will be here to help. Please consider donating to our cause so that we can continue helping victims in need.

If you are a victim, you can get help here.

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